Now, have you ever done something that you are not proud of, as a parent? You know maybe your kid is an inch away from your face after being in trouble 3 times if not more in the past 25 minutes, and they're just right there in your face yelling -- screaming, at you. Then maybe you, in your frustration raise your voice back at them and say "You better get out of my face little boy!" and your child backs away and starts crying, because you yelled at them while they were yelling at you, an inch away from your face.
That's what happened at our house last night. I felt immediately horrible for losing my temper and yelling at Aiden, but I was just really at my wits end with him acting up at that point. So I got up and went to the bathroom, and I was praying and asking for guidance. Then all of a sudden I hear my Mother-in-Law telling Justin "If I EVER see that girl screaming in my babies face like that again I WILL call Child Advocate!" First of all, I would just like to say that I did not scream in Aidens face. Did I raise my voice? Yep, I sure did! But he was yelling at me -- his mother, an inch away from my face! Of course I'm going to get angry, that's disrespectful and he knows better. He knows he shouldn't be doing that. But I did not scream at him. I did raise my voice and tell him to get out of my face, which he did after that because kids can always tell your "I mean business" tone of voice.
Well then my Mother-in-Law decides to tell my Husband that he needs to "Step up and act like a man and tell her that you're not going to tolerate her screaming in your little boys face like that." I'm sorry, since when is it not okay to raise your voice at your child who is yelling at you right in your face? I did not bend down and get in his face to yell at him, I simply raised my voice at him while he was already in my face. I didn't threaten him or say I was going to bust his butt, all I said was "You had better get out of my face, little boy." Because, well, he better not ever get up in my face screaming at me. She acts like I got in his face and was screaming at him in some evil tone of voice, which did not happen. He was already in my face when I raised my voice at him, it scared him because he knows when I use that tone of voice I'm serious and he's in trouble and/or doing something very wrong.
Don't get me wrong, I feel bad about it. Then again I feel badly anytime I have to punish Aiden. I do not often lose my cool with him, I don't hit him when I get angry -- in fact most of the time I will take a time out to sit and think about what would be the best way to go about discipline when I'm angry. I don't act out of anger, or at least I try my best as much as is humanly possible to not act out of anger towards anyone especially my babies!
So my question is: Do you consider what I did bad enough for CPS or Child Advocate to come in and remove my children from my care? Or is this, in your opinion, just another case of Justins mother making a mountain out of a mole hill and sticking her nose in where it doesn't belong?
In other news we were so worried that Jagger had Chickenpox! His entire back and neck, head and some of his legs were broke out in these little red bumps. I took a photo of it to show my friend Summer to get her opinion on it, and we just could not be sure. So I took him to the doctor yesterday.
It was not Chickenpox, it's a viral rash that is because of his cold. When the cold goes away the rash will as well. But, and this is a big but to me, he was diagnosed with Asthmatic Bronchitis, and has to take breathing treatments 3 times a day and cough syrup before each treatment. He also got prescribed an antibiotic and a cream to put on his rash. Poor little guy! His rash is already looking a little better, I think though.